High Corey,
Dont know about the USA, here in Australia, a dedicated 12V petrol pump that will meet all of your criteria is very expensive and heavy.
Most of the advertised cheaper 12V fuel pumps, specifically exclude petrol.
The pump recommended by Mike, are almost all not much better than a syphon ie have little capacity to pump to any sort of a height (head).
Even at my advanced age I can pour a 20L can into a low wing fuel tank, however high wing or difficult fill point, is another matter.
I made my own 12V pump that works very well. Will do all that you want EXCEPT the auto shut-off
I used;
A cheap copy of Holley fuel pump (various flow rates advertised on eBay). https://www.ebay.com.au/itm/335901307828?chn=ps&_ul=AU&norover=1&mkevt=1&mkrid=705-139619-5960-0&mkcid=2&mkscid=101&itemid=335901307828&targetid=2370955762951&device=c&mktype=pla&googleloc=9071696&poi=&campaignid=21766114506&mkgroupid=168279963077&rlsatarget=pla-2370955762951&abcId=10047372&merchantid=107454458&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=21766114506&gbraid=0AAAAAD97CxS3D4iHaDHGGrlTuwe3guUsl&gclid=EAIaIQobChMI35uE9q7qjAMV-aVLBR01yxzAEAQYDSABEgINBvD_BwE
Short length (to suit your petrol container) of plastic (we call it Poly pipe) irrigation riser,
Screw in brass barbed connector + hose clamp,
Brass or plastic threaded reducer
Length of automotive fuel hose (think 12mm ID) to suit your application,
Earth/Ground clamp,
2 Anderson plugs - one for pump the other for aircraft battery extension lead
12V shielded switch
Suitable length of HD 12V cable.
The Pump is a Vane type, posative displacement, high flow that will easily pump from ground level to a high wing tank.
I use aircraft power but you could use any 12V battery.
The Poly pipe riser is threaded, so will screw on to the brass/plastic reducer to connect to the inlet side of the pump. The Poly can be easily unscrewed for packing.